Discipline Without Tears
Table of Contents:
Overview of Theoretical Basis
Theoretical Basis
Basic Assumptions
Basic Tenets
Overt Teacher Behaviors
Vocabulary
Educational Insights
and Instructional Implications
Strengths
Weaknesses
The Role Play
References
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Overview of Theoretical Basis:
This project, which focuses on the behavior management model proposed
by Rudolf Dreikurs, will help the classroom teacher by offering one way
to handle classroom management. Discipline Without Tears presents
the teacher as a guide and students as active participants within the classroom.
We focused on several specifics of the theory, including educational implications,
strengths, weaknesses, and how the theory relates to education. There
is also a role play that shows teacher and student interaction, through
shared decision making by both parties.
Dreikursí writings all have a common bond with social psychologist
Alfred Adler. This bond is that all behavior, including misbehavior,
is orderly, purposeful, and directed toward achieving social recognition.
Each action is goal-directed. The ìinnerî goal results
in the ìoutwardî behavior. The teacher must have a student
who misbehaves recognize his ìinnerî goal and then help the
student to change to the more appropriate goal of learning how to belong
with others.
Theoretical Basis:
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Discipline is not punishment. It is teaching students to impose limits
on themselves.
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Democratic teachers provide firm guidance and leadership. They all
students to have a say in establishing rules and consequences.
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All students want to belong. They want status and recognition.
All of their behaviors indicate efforts to belong.
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Misbehavior reflects the mistaken belief that it will gain students the
recognition they want.
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Misbehavior is associated with four mistaken goals: attention getting,
power seeking, revenge, and displaying inadequacy.
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Teachers should identify mistaken goals and then act in ways that do not
reinforce them.
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Teachers should strive to encourage studentsí efforts, but avoid
praising their work or character.
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Teachers should teach students that unpleasant consequences will always
follow inappropriate behavior.
Basic Assumptions:
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Students are social beings and desire to belong.
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Students are decision-makers.
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All behavior is purposeful and directed towards social goals.
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Students do not see reality as it is, but only as they perceive it to be.
This perception may be mistaken or biased.
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A student is a whole being who can not be understood by some particular
characteristics. The whole is greater than the sum total of the parts.
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A studentís misbehavior is the result of faulty reasoning on how
to gain social recognition.
Basic Tenets:
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Subconscious goals that motivate misbehavior:
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Attention getting
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Power and control
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Revenge
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Helplessness or Inadequacy
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Determination of which of the four faulty goals is motivating student is
a four-step process:
1. The teacher observes and collects information about the student
in situations involving peers and family.
2. Once the teacher has gathered information about the student, he
or she can then hypothesize or guess which of the underlying goals the
student holds.
3. The teacher can verify this goal by reflecting on what feelings
arise within the teacher as a result of the studentís behavior.
4. Final verification is achieved by confronting the student with a
series of four questions (see below) and looking for the studentís
recognition reflex. (including smiling, laughing, looking up suddenly,
moving his/her shoulders, or other signs of response)
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Series of four questions:
1. Could it be that you want special attention?
2. Could it be that you want to be the boss?
3. Could it be that you want to hurt others as much as you feel hurt
by them?
4. Could it be that you want to be left alone?
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Discipline is not punishment. Punishment is physical pain, humiliation,
isolation, and revenge; it is a force imposed on one from an outside source.
Dreikurs claims that ìit teaches what not to do, but fails to teach
what to do.î
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Discipline requires freedom of choice and the understanding of consequences.
It is not imposed by authority figures, but rather on individuals by themselves.
By choosing to behave in certain ways individuals learn to gain acceptance
from others, and consequently, acceptance of themselves.
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The teacher is neither autocratic nor permissive; he/she is democratic.
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The teacher is a group leader. He/she creates the atmosphere, he/she
integrates all the diverse personalities and stimulates the democratic
process.
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The teacher is kind, but firm, who motivates students to learn what they
should learn, who encourages students when they make mistakes, who maintains
order and routine by letting each child participate in decision making.
Kindness shows they respect others, but firmness shows that they respect
themselves.
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The system is of mutual respect for the teacher and students where natural
or logical consequences are used rather than arbitrary punishment or systematic
reinforcements.
Overt Teacher Behaviors:
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Confrontation
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Engaging child in friendly conversation
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Disclosing and confirming mistaken goals to the child
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Asking the following questions:
1. Could it be that you want special attention? (attention getting)
2. Could it be that you want to be boss? (power)
3. Could it be that you want to hurt others as theyíve hurt
you? (revenge)
4. Could it be that you want to be left alone? (inadequacy)
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Class group discussion about all types of behavior (scheduled weekly)
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Confrontation about goals and misbehavior
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Continued encouragement to increase childís confidence (belief in
self)
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Avoiding criticism so true motives can be learned and behavior corrected
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Use encouragement techniques such as:
1. Work for improvement, not perfection
2. Commend efforts
3. Separate the deed from doer
4. Build on strengths, not weaknesses
5. Show your faith in the child
6. Mistakes should not be viewed as failures
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Developing logical and natural consequences, logically structured and arranged
by the adult, that must be experienced by the student
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Characteristics of a Democratic Teacher:
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Leader
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Invitation
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Influence
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Stimulation
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Winning cooperation
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Selling ideas
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Guidance
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Encouragement
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Acknowledgement of achievement
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Helping
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Discussion
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I suggest, and help you to decide
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Shared responsibility in team
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Key Elements to Foster a Democratic Classroom
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Order
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Limits
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Firmness and Kindness
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Student involvement in establishing and maintaining goals
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Leadership from the teacher
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Inviting cooperation-eliminating competition
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A sense of belonging to a group
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Freedom to explore, discover, and choose acceptable behavior through understanding
the responsibilities and consequences associated with it
Key Vocabulary Terms:
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Mistaken Goals: Dreikurs identifies four mistaken goals: attention
getting, power seeking, revenge seeking, and displaying inadequacy.
These goals identify the purposes of student misbehavior. They are
usually sought in sequential order. If attention getting fails to
gain recognition, the student will progress to power-seeking behavior.
If that is not rewarded they move on to getting revenge and then to inadequacy.
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Attention Getting: This is evident when a student is constantly
looking to belong and be recognized in class. When students discover
they are not getting the recognition they desire, they may resort to getting
attention through misbehavior. These students are trying to seek
proof of acceptance through what they can get others to give them.
They want the teacher to pay attention to them and provide them with extra
services.
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Power and Control Seeking: This is a goal for a student who
feels inferior, who feels unable to measure up to the expectations of others
or themselves. Students that feel that defying adults is the only way they
can get what they want. Students express a need for power by arguing,
contradicting, lying, having temper tantrums, and exhibiting hostile behavior.
If these students can get the teacher to fight with them they win, because
they succeed in getting the teacher into a power struggle. Whether
or not they get what they want does not matter.
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Revenge Seeking: This is a goal for the student who feels
unable to gain attention or power. This student sees himself as having
unequal status because of what others have done to him. The goal
of revenge is closely related to the goal of power. Some students
feel they should be allowed to do whatever they please and should consider
anyone who tries to stop them as an enemy. These students do not
care about the consequences. Consequences only give them justification
for revenge.
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Displaying Helplessness or Inadequacy: At this level, students
feel that they are helpless and see themselves as total failures.
There is no need to try anymore. They withdraw from any situation
that can intensify their feeling of failure. They guard what little
self-esteem and motivation they have left by removing it from social situations.
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Encouragement: This is an action that conveys to the child
that the teacher respects, trust, and believes in him and thinks that his
present lack of skills in no way diminishes his value as a person.
An effective process of encouragement demands continuous alertness for
the right moment, tone of voice, and choice of words. Recognition
must be give for studentís attempts, even if there has been no visible
accomplishment. A teacher may encourage a child without using any
words.
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Hidden Motivation: A studentís individual logic consists
of what he really believes and intends. It includes the long-range
goals of the life-style, the short-range goals of the immediate situation,
and the rationalizations he gives himself for what he is doing. This
rationale is referred to as the ìhidden motivation.î
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Consequences: Actions that follow behavior in
a natural and logical way. They are not weapons used by the teacher.
They teach students that all behavior results in some corresponding action:
Good behavior brings rewards and unacceptable behavior brings unpleasant
consequences.
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Natural Consequences: Those that students experience only
as a result of their behavior. They are not due to the intervention
of another. For example, if a student kicks his desk and breaks his
foot, he experiences a natural consequence of his behavior.
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Logical Consequences: These are consequences arranged by someone
else, in this case, a teacher. If a student throws papers on
a floor, that student will have to pick them up. Logical consequences
imposed by the teacher are very effective except when dealing with power-seeking
behavior.
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Autocratic Teachers: Force their will on students to prove
they have control of the class. They motivate students with outside
pressure instead of stimulating motivation from within. They need
to feel powerful and sense superiority over students. This attitude
and approach tend to perpetuate behavioral problems. Dreikurs discourages
the approach of an autocratic teacher to establish discipline in the classroom.
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Permissive Teachers: Generate problem behavior because the
atmosphere they allow is not based on everyday reality. Students
in a permissive classroom do not learn that living in society requires
following rules. They do not learn that acceptable behavior requires
self-discipline. They are confused because they believe that they
can do whatever they want, and yet they want to run the show. Dreikurs
feels this type of teacher is equally ineffective.
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Democratic Teachers: These types of teachers are neither permissive
nor autocratic. They provide firm guidance and leadership by establishing
rules and consequences. They motivate students from within.
They maintain order and, at the same time, the allow students to participate
in decision-making. Democratic teachers teach that freedom is tied
to responsibility. They allow students freedom to choose their own
behavior. They also teach students that they must suffer the consequences
if they choose to misbehave. In this way, students learn to behave
in ways that get them what they want. Democratic teachers motivate
from within.
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Informal plays, storytelling, role-plays, classroom discussion, sociometric
testing: Techniques the teacher can employ to uncover their
studentsí goal and how to plan according to that goal. Sociometry
is the study of the relationships among people.
Educational
Insights and Instructional Implications:
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Dreikurs believes that establishing discipline in the classroom must involve
teaching the following concepts:
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Students are responsible for their own actions.
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Students must respect themselves and others.
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Students have the responsibility to influence others to behave appropriately.
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Students are responsible for knowing what the rules and consequences are
in their classroom.
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¨ Classroom as collective group.
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Group discussion is probably the most effective technique a teacher can
use to unite the class for a common goal.
1. It helps children to develop better interpersonal relationships.
2. It enhances learning through accumulated information.
3. Children learn to explore controversial matters and to deal with
people of different backgrounds.
4. Children examine problem areas and face unpleasant facts that they
normally ignore or push aside.
5. Children learn to form attitudes and values that may influence them
for life and that may affect their behavior inside and outside of school.
6. It makes difficult tasks seem lighter when ideas, aspirations, successes,
problems, and anxieties are shared.
7. Children feel supported by their peers and are more responsive.
8. Children learn constructive ways of handling frustrations and of
working through upsetting problems.
9. The teacher may raise the morale of the group and change the atmosphere
of the room.
10. Talking in an atmosphere of mutual understanding stimulates thinking.
11. The teacher learns what each child feels and thinks, how he relates
to others, and what his attitude toward school is.
12. As children mull over and discuss a problem, they may find one
solution or they may find a number of solutions to the same problem.
13. It unifies all children into a group for a common purpose.
They are working on the same problem at the same time and usually have
good results.
14. It helps the child to feel accepted and as if he belongs.
15. The children gain increased self-direction, self-management, and
decision-making abilities.
16. It helps children to see the value of structure and order within
group living.
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Every class has its own particular qualities. Although in many respects
the group resembles other groups of similar size, each class has its own
unique characteristics.
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The class reflects the characteristics of the individuals, who play a leading
part. Everyone in their own way, through their behavior, contributes
toward the particular climate that eventually prevails in the classroom.
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Classroom is operated as a democracy.
Strengths:
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Main strength of Dreikursí model: concreteness of the application.
He tells the teacher how to uncover the studentís goal and how to
plan according to that goal.
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Develops system of mutual respect (rewards and punishment not needed)
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Allows children time to solve their own problems during class discussion
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Involves whole class in decision making
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Helps to aid in socialization of individual
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Step-by-step procedure according to goals to follow
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Self-worth developed by teacher and child
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Has natural and logical consequences
Weaknesses:
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Teacher may not always be able to determine childís true goal.
The teacher may have mixed feelings about a childís behavior and
can not decide which is the childís true goal.
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Some children refuse to talk about incident. The student may not
want to know why he or she behaves as he or she does.
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Passive child is always very difficult to help using this method since
Dreikursí techniques put little pressure on a student to achieve.
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At times, it can be hard to determine logical consequences.
Role Play:
Teachers can no longer resolve conflicts by fighting or giving in.
Fighting or imposing oneís values violates respect for the child,
and giving in, or permissiveness, violates respect for the adult.
In a democratic setting, conflicts have to be resolved by following four
basic steps. They are:
1. Establish mutual respect.
2. Pinpoint the issue.
3. Explore alternatives.
4. Come to a new agreement by shared decision making.
1. Establish mutual respect. We cannot influence another person
unless we have a good relationship with that person. A good relationship
rests on mutual respect. Unless the child feels respected, it will
be difficult for the teacher to motivate and to change his behavior.
2. Pinpoint the issue. Pinpointing the issue of the conflict
helps the child to realize the private logic of his behavior, for instance:
Carrie attacks children whenever they perform well. The teacher
asks for a reason, but she claims that she is only trying to be amusing
or funny.
TEACHER: Carrie, do you know that you always attack people when
they do well?
CARRIE: (No answer)
TEACHER: Do you know why you do this?
CARRIE: I told you, Iím only joking.
TEACHER: Are you aware that you never joke when children perform
poorly?
CARRIE: No.
TEACHER: Could it be that you think that you canít do as well?
CARRIE: Maybe.
TEACHER: Could it be that you are angry at yourself because of this?
CARRIE: Maybe.
TEACHER: Could it be that you are also angry at these children?
CARRIE: No answer.
The teacher has pinpointed the true reason for Carrieís ìjoking.î
3. Exploring alternatives. In any conflict the teacher
and the student should explore all possibilities for dealing with the problem
effectively.
TEACHER: I understand how you feel, Carrie. Could you handle
your feelings differently?
CARRIE: I donít know.
TEACHER: May I make a suggestion?
CARRIE: Sure.
TEACHER: Would you be willing to say or do nothing?
CARRIE: I could say something nice.
TEACHER: Only if you feel like it. But, would you be willing
to say nothing? Would you be willing to accept help from me and the
students in the areas in which you would like to improve?
CARRIE: I donít know.
4. Come to a new agreement by shared decision making. The
student and the teacher reach a decision and come to an agreement.
TEACHER: Would you know if you had a little more time?
CARRIE: I think so.
TEACHER: Could you give me your answer tomorrow?
CARRIE: Yes.
TEACHER: Is this an agreement?
CARRIE: Yes.
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